I love your blog and thank you for the great advice to unclutter our lives. I have a question; whenever my house gets messy (cluttered) it takes a day or two to really clean it up. In cleaning it, the mess often gets worse before it gets better. IT DRIVES MY WIFE CRAZY. Do you have any suggestions to make this process easier on both of us?
The state of a home can often play a major role (or even wreak havoc) in the relationship between cohabitants. There are essentially two things that can be done to alleviate this tension, and both of which require patience and the ability to compromise on the part of both partners.
The first choice is for the messier of the pair to simply not allow things to get to the point where the neat partner is tearing their hair out. Or, to confine the mess to a closed room that the neat partner never needs enter.
The second is for the neater of the pair to simply accept the messy partner for who they are, and to try to keep as much order in the home as possible. And to ask the messy partner to respect the tidiness of certain areas of the house.
In cleaning up any kind of a mess, it appears to be a universal constant that things get worse before they get better. In order to clean out a crowded closet for instance, the closet needs to be emptied first (often laying waste to the room in which it is situated) before things can be sorted and put back away. This can be frustrating for all involved, but life (as well as our homes) can be messy, and it takes work for things to be tidy.
With compromise and patience, everyone in a house can be comfortable, provided that those living together are sensitive to the needs of their cohabitants.